Getting married is something every woman dreams of. Even men love the idea of finally having the right person by their side for life. As the old saying goes, only little boys and old men sneer at love.
Being in love is all well and good, but your wedding is only partly about love. Your wedding is a profound time in your life. It signifies that you’re entering a new stage of adulthood. By this point, your career is beginning to pick up and you’re deciding to make a serious commitment to someone. You’ve looked at Robbins Brothers engagement rings and rental properties together. Other than having children, getting married is traditionally one of the most adult things you can do. At your wedding, then, you should act like an adult and show off your most refined side. You shouldn’t just look graceful when you’re walking down the aisle. You need to genuinely be graceful.
You also have to keep in mind the logistical needs of a large group of people. As much as you might feel like your wedding is about you and your spouse-to-be only, it’s also about your friends and family. They’ve come a long way to see you. There are just some things you shouldn’t do. You might be a Bridezilla if you do any of the following:
You Act Like a Child
At your wedding, the presence of children is as forbidden as your newly minted husband stealing lusty glances at your bridesmaids. You want your guests to bring their children to the wedding so you can have adorable flower girls and ring bearers, but that’s it. The parents should take their young ones to a babysitter and come back themselves for the rest of the party.
While making your guests jump through hoops for your wedding is unavoidable, this degree of stress is uncalled for. While you can impose age limits if you want, it’ll only serve three purposes:
- Alienating two generations of your friends and family
- Adding stress to your life as you work to enforce your commandment
- Making your big day less about creating a happy new world with the love of your life and more about being a little tin god
The sad fact about not allowing children into your wedding is that denying their kids means you’re denying the parents as well. When you allow them in, you embrace your inner adult. But when you reject the kids, you become just as childish as they are—perhaps even more so.
You Swear More Than Most Truckers
Watch this video from Bridezilla on WE TV to get a good impression of a swearing Bridezilla. Actually, maybe that’s a bad impression.
You have to admit, there’s a certain irony about a woman on what should be the happiest day of her life who seems absolutely miserable. There’s a really good litmus test to see if you’re swearing too much. Watch an entire episode of Ice Road Truckers, a show depicting a group of truck drivers who risk their lives by driving 30-ton trucks over a couple feet of ice in areas where the temperature gets down to -60 degrees. If you swear more in an hour than these men do, you’re being—well, something which needn’t be mentioned in polite conversation.
Long story short, watch your #@%*#$ mouth.
You Believe You’re Entitled
Okay, you need your bridesmaid to handle the flowers. Oh, and could she pick up your dress from the tailor’s shop on her way home from work? And could someone deal with that stupid caterer? If your friends always seem too busy to talk to you lately, it might be because you’re starting to treat them like slaves.
Yes, you’re getting married. Yes, your best friends and closest relatives should be more than willing to help you. No, they are not suddenly your entourage. No, they are not going to be able to drop everything and race to your aid if the chrysanthemums you ordered from the florist (all 2,000 of them) need to be picked up but you’re too busy getting your nails done.
You’re not entitled to gifts, either. If you don’t send thank you cards to your guests who were kind enough to give you something, you’re behaving badly. In the same vein, don’t throw a fit because you asked for blue towels and got green ones instead. Just return them, use them for your shade-blind guests, or re-gift them later on.
You know how to act. You also know that this is a time when you can get away with treating people badly. Just remember that the people who come to your wedding aren’t your enemies. These are people who actually care about you. So what does it say about you if you abuse them?
While William and Catherine may have been able to command people to aid them, they were also royalty. If you aren’t a queen, don’t start acting like one just because you’re about to get hitched.
Your wedding has every right to be one of the happiest days of your life. However, if you’re too masochistic to let that happen, you can also turn into the monster that makes everyone wish you’d just run off and eloped instead. You may be able to rule the day with an iron fist, but think twice before you do. Do you really want to risk having people hold grudges against you? After all, when the day of your wedding ends, you won’t be the bride anymore.